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Wow....what an eye opener day 1 was....I honestly didn't realize how hard it was to be positive all the time. I would seriously catch myself about to say something and would tell myself in my head...."no negative...no negative"! I know I am not a negative person per say.....but I found out that I can be a whole lot nicer and that the majority of the time I get irritated...it's my fault!! Day 2 builds completely on Day 1.
Kindness. I love the verse in the book that says " She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue" Prov 31:26. We all love our husbands and one of the things that drew us to each other was kindness. It was easy to be kind when you were dating.....no kids...no bills..no stress....no outside conflict, but now it's harder to be kind. Isn't it sad that we let all of the things of this world cause us to be mean and ugly to our husbands?? I know I do!
Today's task is two fold....not only can we not say anything negative, but we have to do an act of kindness towards them today. It can be in words or something that you do for them. I am excited to hear how kind we all are today and how we go out of our way to be kind. Just think ladies, by the end of this we are going to be the most positive people around.....can we do it??? I think we can.....I dare ya!
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Okay trying to see if the technological impared can figure this out..I did it! Okay I typed a long thing a while ago and didn't get it posted, so I will try a lesser version. I messed up yesterday, but started over and forging ahead! I can do this. I too am not a negative person, but found that I am very reactant (is that a word?)! Through the devotions I see the word choose and choice a lot. Page 2 top paragragh is underlined in my book. It is a choice and I want to make an effort to control my emotions, rather than letting them control me. Today my act of kindness as silly as it sounds is to meet him at the door with a smile, hug, and kiss. Usually I am distracted by fussing, screaming, crying kids as I try to fix dinner in bewtween the refereeing. By the time he gets home I am DONE!...and forget or don't even want to think of him or his needs. My goal is to make him happy to be home and choose to change how I am reacting to chillrens! I plan to have them working or busy rather than doing all of the above. This book may just convict me into rearranging my home for him, but will ultimately by for Him. I have a great family. We are blessed. I have a great husband. I want to be better though. All of a sudden it's not about him (like I thought it could be), it's about me changing myself. Yesterday I thought I can't do this...BUT if I keep it up...40 days later, my aquired habits may be broken, and He is again on the forefront of my mouth and mind where He should be....rather than circumstances in this world. And...what will the tone and volume of our home be like as we seek to edify one another...it won't just be our homes that are changed, it will be our church. Nelson Price said yesterday am that if we edify others, they in turn will edify us...not for a selfish motive but just think, wouldn't it be nice...no drama, only edification?! Let's do this!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOk, so I've already been amazed how God has worked on my attitude in such a short time. When I read today's challenge nothing really came to mind of what I could do, so I asked the Father to show me what I could do to show Mike kindness. It wasn't much later when He showed me through the trash! Yes, God can use a donkey, he can use anything!!Several trash cans throughout my house needed to be emptied...I hate that chore! That is totally one I like to leave Mike, but I chose to make that my act of kindness. I thought ok, so I'll take them out and even put them in the outside trash can(once again hate that chore!) So, I donned my black clogs with white athletic socks and walked outside to the garage. There I found the outside trash can was still at the end of the driveway. So I marched my little happy wife self down stylin' in the shoes, and brought up the gross trash can, and filled it up with all the trash. What I found after I did that was what surprised me. My attitude changed, I looked at things differently. I even looked at Mike differently. I realized all the kindness he shows me all the time, God gave me an awesome husband, and I started thinking about all the things he does do and not what he doesn't do. I'm so excited about doing this, I can't wait to learn more and grow more, not only in my marriage but in my relationship with the One who designed my marriage.
ReplyDeleteOk, so I was in the same boat as Heather about what I could possibly do to show an act of kindness. In my usual way, I tried to think of something really big that he would notice...but the more I tried to think of something the more blank my mind became. God loves to mess with me at times, and this was exactly the time! It is not about ME and the attention I want, but it is about showing my husband kindness whether he notices or not. As a matter of fact, my husband has outdone me in the kindness arena already today. He has helped me get an unwilling child ready for school, followed us out to the van to buckle us all in, went back inside to get something for Maddie, emailed me to check on me... How do I compete with that? I have decided to show my act of kindness by giving him a huge hug and telling him how awesome he is for making my day so easy. This may seem like "nothing" to some of you but to me, who shows her appreciation so little, he will probably do back flips after I initiate the hug! Thank you God for showing me this is not about ME, but what You can do through me with showing my husband a small act of kindness.
ReplyDelete“Who r u and where is my wife?” was my husband’s reaction. He first sent me a text and asked what we were having for supper tonight. We were both at work and I had about an hour before I would head home. I was excited and looking forward to my one act of kindness and purpose of my day. I text back an asked “What would you like for me to fix you, Darling?” and his response was total shock. I, of course, could not imagine that I had been anything less then kind to my husband of 18 years, but I have been. I think his expression of amazement was a shock to me. I told him that I was the same wife… just one with a changed attitude. He was so shocked that he called me and asked what was going on or if I had a fever. I assured him that I was fine. I think the “Darling” is what stunned him. Don’t you? lol
ReplyDeleteLater this evening, I greeted him with a big hug and kiss and took time to ask about his day. After we visited for a few minutes, I poured him a glass of tea and asked him if he would like me to get him anything else. He asked me if I was okay or if there was a pod out in the backyard with a spaceship from another galaxy. Okay, ladies, I have been beat up today, but I took it all with a Proverbs 31 smile.
What I learned about myself hurt, like a bee sting, but it brought attention to some important areas that I need to work on. It seems that after 18 years of marriage we would have no problems and that all would be perfect, but the true is there is so much that competes for my attention. I have become so consumed with our children, their constant activities, work, and every day chores, that I have taken for granted the most special person in my life, my husband.
Thank you, Lord, for giving me my special “Adam” to share my life with, lean on through the hard times, to rejoice with during the milestones, and to grow a family that loves you. I am so blessed beyond measure. Please help me to show him a place of honor in my life and heart. Help me to grow more in love with my perfect mate. Amen.
Alright, so my thought for last night didn't work....we got up this morning...I was still not feeling well....and then McKenzie was worse off than yesterday...so the time I wanted to spend writing my note to Andy....was consumed with trying to find somewhere to take her...because I had a meeting that I had to attend.....Claudia was begging to get to school by 7:00 to practice basketball....Anyway...He ended up taking Claudia......and when he got home, told me he would stay here with McKenzie until I could get out of my meeting.....Thanks to him...we made it through the morning...but my "thoughts" never made it to paper...much less to his truck. I left this morning....upset with the fact I didn't stay up last night to write the note....So anyway....I've got a note written now....and it is sitting on his pillow...so when he comes up tonight....he will get it...my note lets him know how much I appreciate and love him...and how thankful I am that God put the two of us...(so opposite)together! Praise God for him....I am so blessed to have him as my husband!
ReplyDeleteOh yea....and by the way...I cooked dinner...and only "over cooked" the bread! Chicken, Mac & Cheese, Peas, sliced tomatoes, and steamed broccoli. That was pretty good...only one item that couldn't be consumed! I know that was an unexpected surprise for Andy! And....for the fun of it...I think McKenzie and Andy went outside to throw the rolls...like rocks!
ReplyDeleteThanks girls. And Shelly...my potatoe soup burnt, which blessed my heart. It's a specialty of mine and I have made it 100 times before tonight. I sat and watched his face and then I began a defeated night and sit here typing in tears as he is in bed alone, cause I had to finish my kitchen cleaning. I have had a terrible night of defeat and know it is only the devil grinding his nails into me. This is just the second day. I can do this. Tomorrow is just a small day...he loves cokes in a bottle, so that is what it is from me. I think that is so much easier than this other stuff. I worked SO hard to be so kind and just had hit after hit, and know it is my selfishness at the core of it. I am tired tonight and weary, but there will be new mercies tomorrow. I love him, and am determined to do this hard days and all...and I can build each day upon the others the way Christ did in the scriptures...I will be postitive and kind, with a giving spirit tomorrow. Thanks for sharing your victories...they helped me!!!! Sorry for being negative to you, just being real. Love ya'll!
ReplyDeleteStephanie....my day 3....was like your day 2! Defeated......After I wrote my post....I came to look again at the posts for day 2....and read your post.......I feel this way on day 3....and I'm determined to do this as well.....and like you said....tomorrow is a new day.....I love you girl! I knew when we talked tonight....we needed to talk longer....I just wasn't sure what we needed to talk about...now I know that we just needed to "comfort" one another......WHY DID WE HANG UP THE PHONE!
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