Wow, what a great week it has been already! I have been able to really, truly communicate with my husband this week! Has it been difficult??? Sure, some things have been tough...but I have constantly been conscious of how I react to him!
Love is thoughtful. When I read this I thought, "I got this in the bag....I am always thoughtful with him"! Boy, are my toes hurting right now!!! As I read through the section where he talks about the husband not seeing that the wife may need help while she is doing ten other things...I was just a "amen" ing.....until I hit the next paragraph where it talked about women speaking between the lines...that we like to ..uhm...hint! I thought back to several conversations where my husband would say "I can't read your mind, and no I don't see things that need to be done...you need to tell me!" and when he has said "quit talking in circles and tell me what you really mean"!! I am the queen of the hint drop....and I don't like it. And if we are being honest here, I get ill when he doesn't take my hints! So I am going to try my hardest to speak my heart...my desires...my wishes without leaving a trail of breadcrumbs for him to figure it out, cause I got news for you ladies....he hasn't figured it out yet!! I am excited to see how it goes with me thinking:)
I loved the part where it said "love thinks before speaking. It filters words through a grid of truth and kindness"! That my friends is powerful and something that I want to do with every relationship that I have! Think about how we can demonstrate love to our men....what needs he may have....what way's we can communicate better! Great Thinking produces great marriages!!
Today's task is to call your husband today and only ask how they are doing and if they need anything! Enjoy talking to you husband today and being thoughtful...I dare ya!
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(I've actually been journaling to give to my sweet husband at the end of our journey together - just not on-line. - Y'all know how I am...)
I did want to share about today's lesson. I just keep coming back to the first 2 words of the lesson. Love Thinks. We don't ever hear this from the world, do we? We hear...Love Feels. I am thankful that as I grow in my Christian walk (boy, do I have a looonnnnng way to go) that I truly understand "Love" is not a feeling - it is demonstrative - something we do. No, it is not about always buying something - it's more about those intangible things - listening at the right time, just being there, saying the "right" thing at the "right" time, encouraging. Do I fall short. Absolutely. This study has been great to keep us thinking about thinking, Huh?
I don't know about you all, but Genesis 2:18 does tell me to be a "helper". I often ask myself - "Am I really helping him?" I would like to be able to say a resounding "YES" all the time. But...believe it or not, yes, even a current "Stay-At-Home" mom can get herself so overextended in volunteering and other tasks outside the home, that she forgets the purpose in which she has been called. I know and understand and even hear a lot.... - We are all busy ladies. But I ask myself - is that how our Lord intended us to be. We read Proverbs 31. It does talk about all that she does. But it never speaks of "her" being tired, or frazzled, or not having enough time to get everything done, or worrying. As someone said earlier - "Ouch, my toes definitely hurt". Actually, I think mine are bruised.
I am thankful for going through this study with you ladies. I am thankful for this time of "thinking about thinking". But most of all, I sure am thankful for the Godly, loving husband HE gave to me, and the Godly, loving Daddy HE gave to my son.
...Glad to be learning together!
Praying for you all.
Love Thinks...
What does my (our) husband(s) "hear"?
Today's challenge really opened my eyes to how I really act. I realized I never ask him about his needs. I'm so ashamed to admit that, but it's the truth. He does so much for me and the kids, and I don't ever just ask him a simple "do you need anything?" When I called and asked, he said no, he was fine, but I could tell he appreciated me asking. I have been so selfish, for so long. I'm so thankful that God is using this study to open my eyes to the real Heather. It's painful to learn things you don't like about yourself, but the pain will be worth it when the improvement comes!
ReplyDeleteWell, here we are again on another day completed. Here are the words I underlined, circled, flowered, etc...
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After a while, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate.
a helper.
But too often,
But the thoughtful nature of love teaches you to engage your mind before engaging your lips. (LARGE problem for me!) Love thinks before speaking.
Great marriages come from great thinking.
The author described me to a tee today when pin pointing women. And yes, a bit bruised as well. I love to think of him. I need to remember before I am a mommy...I am a wife. I love loving him. This week has been good, I am learning to tame myself a bit more because I am trying so hard to "think" about this commitment, and in reality pondering and renewing a commitment I made 7.5 years ago.
I love thinking!
Stephanie
Wow!! such awesome comments ladies. You all bless my heart so much because we are all going through the same battles, struggles and all reaching for the same goal! To be the wife God called us to be for our husbands, that helpmate we were designed to be.
ReplyDeleteWe all mess up, and boy did I today! I thought I was doing really good, until I went to Dairy Queen to get an ice cream, and did not even think to get my husband something. He loves oreo blizzards, chocolate milkshakes, and chocolate ice cream. I can't believe that I just flat out forgot!!!!!
I got home and realized that I had not gotten him anything. I did call him to see how his day has been going today, and I told him how SELFISH I was, and explained what I did. He told me that I was more worried about it than he was. I did offer to go back up to DQ and get him what he does like but he told me that he was good and really didn't want anything. I also asked him if there was anything I could get for him, and he said no.
Just a few days ago he went to DQ and brought me something back, so this is why it is bothering me so much. He is so thoughtful like that, and I always overlook what he does do for me. I am trying to do better. One day at a time I tell myself. I desire to do better, and to be so sensitive to his needs.
I asked him to forgive me, he didn't comment but I could tell by his response that he did :)
So much for me "thinking" today huh???
And yes my toes are bruised too, very bruised.
I so need this study and so desire for God to change ME!!! I desire so much to be my husband's trophy!!
This morning, on my way to work, I thought I would just call Andy....so I'm driving, and digging through my bags...trying to look on the floor of the car for my phone...ummmm..Left it at home! So, I thought...press on-star......and I get the message...you do not have any remaining minutes in your account! UGGGGG...Determined not to give up, I start looking around for a pay phone....Well...now I wonder if they even "make" pay phones any more...none in sight. So I get to work.....and have a 7:55 meeting with a teacher.....and honestly through the meeting, I was thinking about how I could e-mail Andy. After the meeting...I quickly grabbed my rolling cart....started rolling down the hall....D-E-T-E-R-M-I-N-E-D to get to a computer....and two doors down from my office....a teacher grabs me and tells me that they have a classroom without a sub...and without plans...and 21 kids wondering what to do......Well, you guessed it! So...another obstacle that interfered with "my" plans! Things are being thrown in every direction...BUT God is bigger.....and I'm not going to let "distracters" keep me from this opportunity to grow....and so I stop...and pray for God to open the opportunity for me to contact Andy on HIS time table...not mine! Finally, I did get to e-mail Andy....and I think the timing ended up being perfect! So, my morning mission got delayed when I was relying on "me" to get it done....I let "self" get in the way this morning...When I "Let go and Let God"....He worked in an unexplainable way! Praise God for obstacles that make us stop, stand still, and allow Him to move!!!!!
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