"Love does not seek it's own" 1 Corinthians 13:5
Wow...today is a good one. Not because I get to spend money, but because it reminded me of how selfish being selfish is!! I think in my world I think I am so "selfless" because I put the needs of my kids and husband first...or so I think I do. Today's devotion showed me that sometimes I do things for my own well being...that sometimes I do something...even if it's good...just to benefit myself!
I thought the questions were great that he asked:
Do I truly want what's best for my husband?
Do I want them to feel loved by me?
Do they believe I have their best interest in mind?
Do they see me as looking out for myself?
I hope that my husband knows that I have his best interest at heart and that I am looking out for us and not me! I know that today I will make an extra effort to make sure of these things in a big way....and I can't wait to buy him a gift!!
So today's task is to buy your husband something that tells him that you are thinking about him! Have fun shopping....I dare ya!
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Well, today is a new day. If you read my last comment yesterday I was in the pit of seflishness. After the soup I lost heart and wallered in the pit! Today, the good Lord has hit me hard with the word for the day (am I am not talking Sesame Street here!) I am stuck on the sentence of, "whether you like it or not you have a reputation in the eyes of those around you, esp. in the eyes of your spouse."
ReplyDeleteEyes of other, I knew...but the eyes of my spouse?! Wonder what that one is? I am such a selfish person when reading this devo. Last night I got to the point of nothing negative, nothing negative, nothing negative in my mind...and decided not to say anything at all. Well, in my mind I said it all...just as good as verbalizing it. My selfishness surfaced and maybe it was a good thing because today, I can identify how selfish I am, and otherwise might not have been so quick to say yeah okay I'm selfish. My act of buying something today was just going to be a coke...as I shared with my mom today she said...if you are going to do it put your whole heart into it...so I am now going to go get something that I know he has wanted for a long time, even if I have to stand on the street corner with a cup and beg for the money! :) J/K! I have renewed mercies today, and pray that I can focus my strengths on Him and him today with a new spirit. Forgive me for spreading so much screwtape joy last night! But thanks for listening! I have a great husband and can't wait to see his face this evening!
Well this is the 3rd day of "Love Dare" and I have to say I am very squeamish about doing this because of, well I will just go ahead and say it!
ReplyDeleteI am afraid of being rejected by my husband!!!
This is something I have had to endure for a long long time in my marriage. It is not a good feeling at all to be rejected by the one you love so much. I try to imagine what my Savior went through at the cross when so many rejected Him at the cross, prior to Him going to the cross, and even now. I know my Savior knows my fears, and He knows exactly how I feel with the word "rejection"
I want more than anything to have a Godly marriage, and have longed for this very thing ever since the day I got saved. I have to admit, I prayed for a long time for my husband, for our marriage, and then I just quit. I don't know why other than the fact that I didn't see results when "I" wanted to. I didn't even consider when "GOD" was going to display the results! Lord forgive me!!!
A while back when PMBC had the books I got one then and I never made it to day 2 but day 1 is so etched in my heart, even back that far!
I wrote:
"My marriage is very worth saving! I want & desire for that spark to light up in our marriage again. I long to spend time with my husband and I want him to want to spend time with me too. I think about what we can do, where we can go and just be with each other. He loves the beach, and I long for us just to walk alongside the beach together enjoying every minute we have with each other.
He says, "apples & oranges" and I say "salt & pepper" As salt and pepper, we mix good together, well should I say, my heart longs for this to be so real in my marriage! We are "unequally yoked" right now and it so breaks my heart!
I need to learn to be patient and wait on God!
It isn't hard at all for me to show love, I come from a very loving family growing up and was displayed constantly! My husband came from a family that did not really display love, not by hugging, or a simple "I love you" But that is not his fault.
So my desire is to finish, and to finish well! Even in my marriage. I am so far from being where I need to be, but farther along than I used to be.
Will you precious ladies please pray for me and my husband as I will join in praying for all ladies @ PMBC that is doing "Love Dare" and I so excited to see what God is going to do in each one of our lives and marriages.
I too am excited about buying my husband a gift so gotta go shopping! Toodles!
Does Diet Coke count as a gift? It may sound silly but just the other day my husband asked me in a little bit of sarcastic tone to please buy him Diet Coke when I go to the grocery store. (this being during a "discussion" about not letting our children drink a lot of diet sodas because of the fake sweeteners)I responded with a not so sweet tone that "I ask you every time I go to the grocery store if you need me to pick up anything specifically for you..." and you can imagine the rest of the conversation. Well, today my husband is going to get loaded down with YES! Diet Coke!!!! I know he will appreciate this because it has not been mentioned since our "discussion" and there were no plans for me to go to the grocery store today. How can I be so excited to get home and give him a 12-pack (of soda, that is)? I am loving this daily devotion of focusing on Him and the hubby. It has been a real eye opener for my own attitude and that change starts within me.
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ReplyDeleteI am praying for you, and for your husband. God can do anything, and He is in the saving marriage business...seeing as how He ordained it for us. I am excited you are doing this with us, and know I am praying for you. Happy shopping. I am STOKED for Keith to get home. I am excited for him to go to our room and see his gift. He might return it, but at least he knows he was really thought of today...rain and all. :) Off to read to my sweet Riley Kay!
I'm excited about this. Sunday was a wonderful day and I said nothing negative all day. Monday wasn't too bad either. I kind of had it easy since my hubby left at 6 that morning to fly to Minnesota. I did however wake up early to iron a shirt for him and help him finish packing. Now for day #3, his little present is a card and a snickers. We had watched Modern Marvels a week ago or so and it was on candy. If you all know my husband, he does eat junk when he's on his little cheat days but he wouldn't just go out and buy himself a snickers. I thought I would put the card and the snickers on his pillow when he comes in tonight.
ReplyDeleteI'm absolutely loving this study. It's awesome what God is doing in each of our lives. I've had a heart of thankfulness and a desire for change within myself. I look forward to each new day to see what the future holds. Now to do some Math with my little ones. Have a wonderful and blessed day everyone!
Heather
So I must confess, I had decided not to blog at all and just let this be something between Travis and I. Even as of this morning while I was ironing Travis' shirt (something kind I have decided to do daily since I used to), I had made up my mind that it was just a private thing between us. So as I am waiting on my mom at the docotor this afternoon, I read all your posts and I was so blessed. So here I am..
ReplyDeleteToday I had so much fun coming up with something to get Trav. I realized that this was something Trav and I do alot. Get little unexpected surprises for each other. So I decided to get something really cool. Since we are encouraging the Youth to journal and Trav said he wanted to do it, I went and got him a cool journal. Then went to the front and they had Casting Crowns CD's on sale. He will be so excited- I cannot wait to see his face.
So far, God has taught me how blessed I am. Travis and I have such a special marriage that many will never know. I am grateful that this will only make it stronger.
Ok....I have been gone all day long working on my company and have had little time to think about anything but that...Ric is at the convention and I actually got to go there last night..have dinner with him...and get this...stay in a hotel with NO kids:) We had such a good time just talking to each other and it was seriously a blessing and unbelievable timing. I asked Steph on my way home what I could get him...I was drawing a blank..and then I remembered this morning. As he was getting ready he pulled his comb out of his bag and there was a little girls brown hair in it...my kids steal his comb:)...and he said "I just wish I had my own comb...that no one else can use"! So I went and bought him a comb and a sharpie and am writing on it: DAD'S comb keep OFF!!! I also got him some hairspray cause he needed it. Silly right??? I hope he likes it!!! This has been awesome ladies and I am finding myself thinking more about Ric than ever!!! Way to go ladies..don't grow weary in doing good!!! What a blessing you all are!
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ReplyDeleteI had the BEST time just shopping for my husband today. He NEVER buys anything for himself. I mean it ladies, he doesn't! He always uses his money to pay bills, buy groceries, and never anything for himself.
I couldnt think of a thing to really get him at first because he is so hard to buy for.
But I did remember that about a week ago, he was walking to the mailbox in the rain, and in his "house shoes" and came back in with the comment, "I got my house shoes wet, I didn't even think about having them on when I went out to get the mail" Then he said, "oh well, I need to get some new ones anyway"
So...My husband got some new house shoes today with a card. He did say they might not fit because he has a wide foot, but he also said they might. Even if they don't I know he appreciated his house shoes and his card.
How awesome this study is, and how completely AWESOME my God is!
I was so completely focused on one mission today, and that was to do something for my husband. Accomplished!!!! I took the dare ladies!!!
I so can't wait to see what God has in store each day as he molds ME, not my husband but ME because as God molds me, and I am submissive to Him, I know without a doubt HE will take care of the rest!!
I thoroughly have enjoyed reading each of your blogs and look forward to each day!!!!
God Bless each one of you. I am going to go and iron my husbands work shirts :)
Well, I'm bad! Yikes....today was full of RAIN, and I struggled just to make it from one stop to the next at work! Struggled making it home without running off the road...and then tonight as soon as I hit the door....we were off to the end of season fellowship with his flag football team....I was able to sit at the table maybe 15 minutes before I had to leave and get Claudia from ball practice......still in the rain....praying I wouldn't run off the road! So finally, when I got home, I read the dare for today! So, I've got to go buy something tomorrow. Something special.....Something that will make him smile and let him know that I was thinking only of him when I got it?????? I'll let you know tomorrow what I get......and one thing I learned today....is that my energy was used today on responsibilities, duties, time limits, and deadlines......(and trying to drive safe!)....but I allowed Satan to get in the way of me reading the dare early this morning....or even during the day. Then when I finally read the dare...the day was over....and I failed the challenge! I missed out on the blessing God had for me to see a smile on Andy's face....So I have a "double dare" tomorrow! I won't allow distractions to get in my way!
ReplyDeleteToday's challenge is going to be difficult because my husband is always contacting ME through email throughout the day to check on ME. I have been trying really hard to make this about him and somehow he always brings the focus back to me... I am so thankful that my husband has that kind of devotion to me and for me which makes me want to try extra hard to make him happy. I am going try to make the 3rd "contact" of the day unexpected... a text message. It's only 9:00 but I have already spoken to him by phone twice so I am asking God to show me when the perfect time is to send him a message. Just when he needs an encouraging message the most, I hope to be the one to give it to him. Have a great day!!!!
ReplyDeleteToday is going to be a little more difficult for me to contact my husband by phone and talk to him because of the type of job he has. He didn't leave for work until around 1pm, he has to be at work @ 2pm and since he is a security guard, he stays really busy checking in trailers all day. It is very difficult to talk to him at times by phone.
ReplyDeleteSo I too am going to pray that God will impress upon my heart the right time to contact him and maybe he wont be busy at that moment for us to talk. I dont want to just choose to "text" because that has been the "easy way out" for me for too long. I want to talk to him by phone and learn to communicate more with him that way and not texting like I have more of a tendency to choose. Face to Face communication has always been a difficult task for us, and I want God to change me in this area so that I will come out of my comfort zone and face my husband more "in person" when we communicate. I don't want to take the easy way out anymore so this is going to be, let's say, a "challenging" task for me, but I know that "I can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens me."
Have a blessed day in the Lord ladies!!
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